Emotional Guidance

Working with the wrong people

or having wrong/disempowering relationship

may make you doubt about

yourself and your ability

When you start paying attention

to your emotional well-being

and respect that guidance

You could turn your life around

Where does the pain come from?

Different values and beliefs

Upbringing and conditioning

Different style of decision and action

then you realize 

'Change' is not your middle name

If 'respect' coulda woulda shoulda 

solve the differences

and move towards alignment

Then it is gonna to be an easy job

But the reality is not so

This year

I encounter a few difficult soul lessons

It takes a lot of courage in letting-go the pain

Appreciate the learning experience

and allow that emotional guidance and openness

to show me the way

One of the most painful working experiences 

that I have ever had recently

was working for a 'control freak' lady boss a few months back

Once you experience in working with her

directly or indirectly

You will know why

The pain is unbearable

Someone who is so fear of losing control

and has no trust for others

Life is a mirror

It means ~

she has no trust in herself

and fear of losing control

For the first time in my professional life

I finally give up

despite the fact that 

I could appreciate 

we come together to share a gift

in this working relationship

I deeply felt that 

it's a call for love 

that I needed to do

This is the only 'WHY' 

I jump into this decision to help her 

with the hope she will be working on the business one day

Out of surprise

This was the most painful working relationship ever

This highly dominant bossy lady

Who constantly stirred the fear inside people working for her

that wanted to go through every emails before sending out

and stopped everything on hand

just to listen to every phone calls you made

to fill your day with non-stop 'To Do List'

rather than focusing the end result

and giving you some free hand to unleash your full potential

Not to mention about

empowerment and enrichment

But wanted to squeeze you every minute and second

So that she is able to control you for the day

for what you do and not

By the end of the day 

Your brain will be jammed up exhausted

Leaving no room for the juices of creativity or so

Your body is tight 

like an old man and woman

Sometimes make you wonder

Is this your choice of life?

If not, could you change?

Personally that is absolutely not my cup of tea

Now I come to realization 

How her personality and behavior 

is creating pain for others around her

She is not ready to hear or see the truth

This is the reason I come in at the first place

to love and help her grow

After heart-to-heart talk

We come to agreement

She is not ready to accept the truth

I walked out literally

And not looking back since then

With no regret

Despite the fact that

my pure intention of helping her initially

to turn the situation around

is no longer my priority

I am absolutely grateful for emotional guidance

The courage to make my own decision is crucial

If I haven't been to 'Fire Walk' with 4000 people

If I haven't invested in myself

for the last 15 years professionally and personally

with the world best teachers, coaches and mentors

in personal development training and seminars

If I did not invest in my private library with more than 1500 books

and constantly develop myself for the last 16 years

If I haven't been listening to all the Buddhism practice by all the Masters/Lamas

about Karma Living, Big Love & Compassion

If I did not believe in my personal power

If I do not have the courage to change

If I live in fear

I may continue being defeated working for this monster

Life is a mirror

Let your emotion be your guide

You will be surprise how your life will turn out

As long as you are cleared about what you do not want

You will give yourself an opportunity

to be clear about

what you do want

The key question is -

What is it that you DO want

And focus on them

Life is so short

In spending time with the people

that you do not enjoy/share or

much to learn from or

you believe 

it's not serving your higher purpose anymore

Then come to know -

It's time to move on!

Life your charmed life ever

Know that

You deserved all the great life

Claim it

It's your birth right to do so!

What ultimately determines 

who we become and

where we go in life?

The answer is our decisions

NOT the conditions of our lives

that determine our destiny

Living a courageous life ever,

B